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The Critical Nature of Fatherhood

Happy Thanksgiving everyone! I hope you all are having a great time this week celebrating Thanksgiving and everything. I know I am. And I wanted to put a focus on that for a little for this blog post.  Something that I have always been grateful for, and I think a lot of people will agree with this, is my family. They've done a lot for me, and I don't know where I would be without them. I'm grateful for both my mother and my father, and they are a huge part of who I am today.  I've heard it been said that a mother is the only truly necessary part of a family. A father isn't as necessary or important as a mother. However, I don't necessarily believe that it is true. Sure, the world would like to make us believe that fallacy. In fact, the further in the future we go, the more and more it seems like they promote this belief all over television. I mean, how often in movies is the father made out to be the goofball. The complete buffoon. Men are being depicted in movi...

The Unique Challenges with New Age Communication

       Hello everyone! Welcome to another post here on my blog. I hope everything has been going alright with you all. Commnication is a HUGE part of our everyday life. We used it all the time, every single day. It's crazy how much communication has evolved over time. A couple hundred years ago, people would never have guessed that you could send people messages with the click of a button instantaneously. However, despite the new advancements' technology has undergone, there are still unique challenges that we face due to these evolutions.      When you're talking to someone, a large chunk of your message, about 51%, comes from your nonverbal communication. This includes things like body posture, movement, and body language. 35% of your message comes from the tone or inflection of your voice. Lastly, only 14% of your message is actually from the words that you say. This was really surprising to me. I thought that words were super important for conveyin...

When in danger.... freeze?

 Hello everyone! Welcome to another post here on my blog, hope you all are doing good. There are a lot of things that I have learned this past week. Something I haven't really thought about before is how important coping is in our lives. I kind of always just assumed it was just about hanging in there, but it's actually a lot more than that. We want our coping to set up and maintain the boundaries around ourselves. It keeps us safe, both the inside and the outside.   It is also very important, in a relationship, to have your spouse become your best friend. This means now going to other people outside of the relationship if you're dealing with something. If there are worries, talk it out with the spouse. I used to think that it was weird to just leave everyone behind when marriage came. To leave all of your friends who are girls behind, like they don't even exist anymore. It was a hard concept to completely wrap my head around, because I thought that I would still be abl...

Don't Fall In!

Hello everyone! Welcome to another one of my blog posts. There have been a lot of different things that have piqued my interest this week during my studies into different topics of research. To begin this post, I'd like to start off with a story. It was given by one of my professors at BYU-Idaho. His name was Mr. Williams. I won't go horribly in-depth on every little detail that was said, but I want to at least paint a picture in your mind.  He told a story that took place during his time as a therapist, when a man came in to see him. I won't say exactly why he was there, but he felt like he was on the verge of committing adultery, and he didn't want to do that. He didn't care if he did everything else instead. He just didn't want to take that step. Mr. Williams then gave him a visual to ponder on. He told the man a story about when he was young and he wanted to go to the river to look at the fishes, even though his parents told him not to go near. Yet he still ...

Boom... Here Comes Married Life!

Hey all, I hope all is well! Welcome to yet another post on this blog!  I've talked about a lot of things these past few weeks. I wrote a post about dating, and about best practices when going on dates with other people. Today, I was going to go along those same lines; however, this time taking it a step further. Dates are fun opportunities to see what we want in a relationship, and in a spouse. And when someone finds a person they feel like is the right one for them, they naturally want to spend the rest of their life with them. It leads them to marriage.  Once marriage comes, everything about life changes. You're no longer by yourself, and you need to get used to living with someone else now. I'm not married myself, but I can relate to living with random people and getting used to the way that they do things. It happened a lot during my mission. I met people from a variety of different backgrounds who didn't do things the same as I did. Sometimes it would even lead to...

Dating and Courtship

 Hello everyone! Hope everything is going well for you all. Today I'm going to talk about a pretty relevant subject, especially concerning the younger generation. I wanted to talk a bit about dating. Now, I admit, I don't have the most expertise in this area; however, there's a lot that I learned this week which I would like you share with you.  It's interesting how blind we tend to be while in a relationship. There are different explanations for why it might be that way. One of the explanations if that someone might have a Misattribution of Arousal, where they mistake the feeling of adrenaline or the feeling of having their heart pumping, as a sign that they are attracted to someone. A study showed this where they surveyed people just after they had gotten done with a rollercoaster; and on a scale from one to ten, it was polled that people rated the person two points higher after they had ridden on the rollercoaster. There are other explanations as well for why people ...

Our Gender Roles are Divine

Hello everyone! Welcome to my fourth blog post here on this blog. There have been a lot of things that I have learned so far in class. Most of what I learned was focused on how the different gender roles and responsibilities both complement and support each other. We have been created on this Earth for specific purposes in mind. Adam and Eve were given life and were commanded to create the first human family. I especially love what God says after he had created man. In Genesis chapter 2, which reads, "And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him."  I love this scripture and how it exemplifies that neither the woman nor the man could ever take on the responsibilities of both of the parents. They need each other. It is a divine calling. James E Faust taught this same principle when he said that "Being a father or a mother is not only a great challenge, it is a divine calling. It is an effort requiring consecration...